Finding What Works

I have to admit that I am finding it very hard to follow my chore schedule strictly, but as I mentioned in my other post, that's not what this is about. It's about baby steps.  I have named a goal: following my weekly chore schedule.  My first step to being successful at it is making the chores a part of my routine.  There are some that are easy to get done and I don't mind so much like vacuuming, mopping, picking up toys, doing laundry and others that I absolutely hate doing like cleaning bathrooms, washing dishes, cooking.  Like it or not they have to get done.  I also have good days when I am full of energy and feel motivated to tackle anything. I take advantage of those days and add an extra chore.  That way on the bad days when I'm sluggish and having difficulty focusing I can skip a chore and just focus on maintaining the house neat; picking up toys, washing dishes, etc.  I try to get most of it done early in the day so I don't have to worry about it the rest of the day.  Once the chore for the day is done, I feel accomplished and the anxiety subsides. 

Writing down a weekly menu has taken the fuss out of grocery shopping.  I make a list before heading out, and I know exactly what I need to buy so I'm not overwhelmed at the supermarket.   Sandy Maynard from ADDitude Magazine put it this way: "Supermarkets seem to be designed to play tricks on the ADD mind, with their eye-catching displays, seductive product packaging, and food choices too numerous to count. And all those 'on sale' signs? They’re rocket fuel for impulsive types.  Other shoppers stroll up and down the aisles, placidly loading their carts and checking items off their lists. We ADDers stand there, frozen like, well, a box of frozen veggies: Should we go for the chopped or the julienne string beans?" The picture on the right is a pretty good representation of this.  I also found it in ADDitude Magazine.  I create my list with a handy little app for my Android phone and text it to my husband.  We go together and split the grocery list.  That way, we are done in half the time.

Writing out my routine has helped both me AND my daughters.  There's no freezing up wondering what to do next.  I've been sticking to my routine pretty well so they are getting used to it, and they pretty much know what to expect and have fewer melt downs.  I've scheduled time for them when I read them a story or get down on the floor and play with them so when it's time for me to work they aren't fighting for my attention. 

It's not a perfect system but considering I'm not on any meds at the moment I have to expect some downfalls.  Hopefully, once I start treatment again things will go smoother. Until then, I'll continue with baby steps and writing about it.

I'd like to know what works for you?


Ladybird Ln March 8, 2011 at 12:09 AM  

Hi Moreia, I like schedules too, I need to be better at keeping them! I am flattered you chose to follow my blog, I am your newest follower as well!


Tanyia March 8, 2011 at 6:52 AM  

I am so glad I found your blog, thanks for following me, I am following you back now.

I am not sure what works for me yet... right now my motto is that I need to fight to fight. I have panic disorder and for a few years I was just not the same person because I was over medicated on the wrong meds. Lately though, after being forced to change meds because of being pregnant, I am different. I do things, I am motivated, I care... it is a good thing. Do not get me wrong, I have bad days, but like you I am trying some small goals to get back on track, but I hate schedules.

Maybe I will try a weekly list and see if I can accomplish those things throughout the week like you said, taking advantage of the good days. It might motivate me more to see a list with things crossed off at the end of the week.

Geez I am sorry this is a novel... I just felt a connection to you right away since I feel the same in a lot of ways!

Devonay March 8, 2011 at 11:21 AM  

Just the words chore schedule make me shudder... you're a better woman than I... lol
I'm not very motivated when it comes to housekeeping. I usually don't get too motivated unless I know I have company coming. Of course, I'm more motivated now that I have a roommate. We share his home and he is very tidy, so it forces me to be tidy too.

Thanks for stopping by my blog. I'm following you too.

Morela March 8, 2011 at 12:07 PM  

Thank you all for your comments.

Tanyia, Meds can be a hindrance at times. If not dosed correctly they can do more harm than good. That's why I haven't been taking medication for a while. They just make me feel so gross.

Devonay, I feel the exact same way about cleaning and I do a better job when I know someone is coming over too. My husband isn't the neatest person in world but when it comes to cleaning he is sooo much better at it than me. I have learned a lot from him and one of the my motivations to clean is that this is our haven and after a long, stressful day at work I want him to look forward to coming home. He works hard so I can stay home with our daughters so I feel I owe him that.

Melinda March 8, 2011 at 1:11 PM  

Thanks for hopping by and for following. I am now following you too. =0)

Becky Jane March 9, 2011 at 10:44 AM  

I never really liked chores until I hit menopause and now it's like an obsession to have everything neat and tidy. Not sure if that's good or not!
I've always been an outdoor/gardening type of girl!
New follower!
Becky Jane

ChinaDoll March 9, 2011 at 12:17 PM  

I am a very forgetful person that is why I always make sure that I have everything planned..I usually do my home chore every day off :)


Morela March 9, 2011 at 12:39 PM  

Becky Jane, I read somewhere that ADD symptoms can shift during puberty, pregnancy, menopause; any time there is an increase in hormones. I'm no expert but maybe that could be true of whatever controls your organizational tendencies in your brain even if you don't have ADD?

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